Pursuit of Happiness: Let us sit, talk and stay for a while!

Words and Its Meaning.

2008-08-24T02:32:00.000-07:00

Itong bago kong article ay gawa ko pa noong 2002. Isa kasi ako sa mga manunulat ng The Artisan ( official school publication ng TUP-Taguig) dati. Pero may konti akong binago dito kasi pang-valentine issue ang tema ng aming newspaper nang mailathala ito. Words and its meaning ang title nito sapagkat aking susuriin at bibigyang linaw ang mga salitang madalas natin gamitin kapag tayo'y nanliligaw, nagmamahal at umiibig.

"Masilayan lang kita'y masaya na ako!"

"Masilayan lang kita'y maligaya na ako!"

Basahin ang dalawang pangungusap sa itaas. Mag pagkakaiba ba sila ng kahulugan? Sa umpisa'y masasabi mong wala pero hindi mo ba naisip kung ano ang pagkakaiba ng masaya sa maligaya? Mababaw ang kahulugan ng masaya habang ang maligaya'y malalim. Masasabi mong masaya ang isang tao kapag siya'y pala-ngiti't palatawa kahit di mo siya kilala samantalang mahirap malaman kung sino ang taong maligaya sapagkat ang tanging nakakaalam lang nito'y ang ating puso. Napakahirap matamo ng tunay na kaligayahan sa buhay. Ang iba'y patuloy sa paghahanap nito, sa kabila ng kanyang kayamanan at katanyagan sa buhay, habang ang iba nama'y hindi na natamo hanggang sa huling yugto ng kanyang buhay. Sapagkat ang tunay na kaligayahan'y nakakamit lamang; ng taong kuntento na sa buhay, kapag nalaman na niya ang "purpose" niya sa buhay at higit sa lahat'y kapag natagpuan na niya ang tunay na Diyos sa kanyang buhay.

Samakatuwid, ang tinutukoy ng nagpapahayag sa unang pangungusap'y 'sang taong nagbibigay sa kanya ng aliw at saya. Maaaring siya'y isang palabiro't masayahing kaibigan na nagbibigay ngiti sa kanya o kaya'y isang hayop na sobrang malapit sa kanya. Ang tinutukoy naman sa huling pahayag'y walang hanggang kasiyahan, sapagkat, iilang tao lang ang pwedeng makapagpbiay ng tunay na kaligayahan sa ating puso. Ang isang beses na pagkikita'y katumbas ng madalas nilang pagkikita. Maaaring ang tinutukoy ng nagpapahayag'y ang kanyang nililiyag o sinisinta na ibig niyang makasama sa habang buhay. Suriin naman natin ang susunod na pahayag.

"Ga'no ba ang pagmamahal mo sa'kin?"

"Mahal kita bilang 'sang tunay na kaibigan."

Sa ikalawang pahayag, bakit kaya 'di niya sinabing "Iniibig kita bilang isang tunay na kaibigan!"? Sa unang pahayag naman ay alam na niya na may antas ang pagmamahal at ang pag-ibig ang nasa pinakamataas na antas! Ito'y katumbas ng salitang Griegong "agape", na ang ibig ibig sabihin ay pinakamataas gaya ng pag-ibig sa Diyos at pag-ibig sa bayan (tulad ng ating mga bayani!). Ang isa pang kahulugan nito'y matatagpuan sa banal na kasulatan Corinthians 13:4-7. Matatagpuan rin ang pagkaka-iba ng pagmamahal sa pag ibig sa isang awitin.

Nang dahil sa pag-ibig natutong magtiis
Nang dahil sa pag-ibig nagmahal ng lubos
Ang puso kong ito ng di umaasang
Tumbasan mo ang pag-ibig ko
Nang dahil sa pag-ibig sunud- sunuran ako
Sa lahat ng gusto mo
Nang dahil sa pag-ibig
Umiiyak ngayon ang puso ko

Ang pagmamahal naman ay katumbas ng salitang Griegong "filia" ang tao'y natututong magmahal sapagkat siya rin ay minamahal ng taong kanyang minamahal bilang kapalit. Halimbawa nito'y pagmamahal sa magulang, kapatid, sa "opposite sex" atbp. Ang filia ay pwedeng tumaas ang antas sa pagiging agape pero ang agape'y hindi pwedeng bumaba sa pagiging filia. Kaya ang ating pagmamahal sa kapwa'y pwedeng maging pag-ibig sa kapwa depende sa ginagawa at nararamdaman natin.

Ang pagsinta nama'y isang aktuwasyon sa paraang may paglalambing, panunuyo at paggalang sa kanyang minamahal habang ang pag-irog nama'y isang aktuwasyon ng pagiging romantiko sa kanyang minamahal. Ang apat na ito'y napagkakamalang nasa parehong antas dahil iisa lang naman ang katumbas nito sa Ingles... LOVE.

Sa mga di pa nakaka-alam, ang bahay ay isang istraktura o gusali na tinitirhan ng tao. Maaaring tawaging bahay ang isang gusali kahit na ito'y puro pundasyon pa lamang. Ang tahanan nama'y isang gusali o bahay na kung saan ang isang pamilya'y maligaya at matiwasay na namumuhay. Tanong ko ngayon saan ka nakatira, bahay o tahanan?

Ang syota/dyowa ay nangangahulugang di seryoso at panandaliang pakikipag-relasyon sa kapwa habang ang mag-nobyo't mag-nobya o magkasintahan ay nangangahulugang seryoso at tapat na pakikipagrelasyon sa "opposite sex"

I Love You

three simple words,
easy to say but hard to do;

Three common words,
that when your heart got it,
your entire systems will be affected;

three combined words'
that no one man can easily understand
nor resist from it without full appreciation;

three different words,
that even the "bright head man"
become an idiot person when conquered by these.

three powerful words,
that only woman's secret weapon;

and three familiar words,
that a man's secret weakness!

Ilang beses mo na bang binigkas at narinig ang "I Love You!" Sa pagbigkas mo nito, 'di ba pumasok sa isip mo ang katanungang bakit nasa gitna ang "love", nasa kanan ang "you" at nasa unahan ang I? Naitanong ko yan sa sarili ko at may sumagot naman. Ang namamagitan sa dalawang nagmamahalan'y "LOVE". Kaya nasa kanan ang YOU dahil ito'y nangangahulugan nang pagmamahal ng buong katapatan at 'di pangangaliwa. Ang pagiging nasa unahan naman ng I ay ngangahulugang dapat munang matutong magmahal ang sinumang bibigkas nito. Iyan ang dahilan kung bakit hindi sinabing "You love me! Ngayon, karapat-dapat ka bang bumigkas nito?

By friendship

it means the greatest love,
the greatest usefulness,
the most open communication,
the severest truth,
the noblest sufferings,
and the greatest understanding
between friends.

May mga tao na ang hinahanap ay "friend" sa halip na friendship kaya madalas ay sa mga mabubuting bagay mula sa kaibigan nakatuon ang ating isip at atensyon sa halip na humanap ng paraan kung paano yayabong at mapapanatili ang pakikipagkaibigan. Natatawa ako dahil may katrabaho akong lahat ng taong kakilala niya'y tinatawag na "friend..." kahit hindi naman niya ka-close. he!he! anyway, ang tunay na pakikipag-kaibigan ay 'di hinahadlangan ng space at time. Kahit na gaano man siya kalayo o halos hindi na kayo nagkikita'y maaari pa ring mapanatili ang inyong friendship lalo na sa panahon ngayon. Nandioyan ang chat, friendster, email, cellphone atbp. Kaya yung bestfriend ko mula pa noong kami'y nasa elementarya ay bestfriend ko pa rin hanggang ngayon. Dati pa naman napakamabagal umusad ng ating teknolohiya dahil sa kinatatakutang millenium bug o Y2K bug kaya hindi pa uso ang cellphone, email, etc. pero napanatili pa rin namin ang aming pagkakaibigan sa pamamagitan ng simpleng pagsusulatan at minsanang pagkikita.

Does The Word "Milks" Correct? ( as what Sharon said in this commercial)

2008-08-22T02:36:00.000-07:00

This is the commercial of Nido Fortified Milk with Sharon Cuneta as a new product endorser. My friend is in his room when this commercial appeared in television. When Sharon said "ang dami daming milks!", he had shocked and said "Huh?!" So he searched and commented the video of this commercial in youtube and there is one user against to him. So, the exchanging of information and reaction started between the two (while some users favor to my friend while the others against to the other. he!he!).

I'm not good to write and speak English especially when it comes to grammar usage but I show you some information regarding this topic. Does the word "milks" exist? Yes! It exists if and only if it acts as a transitive verb in a sentence. Example, "She milks the cow." According to my friend, ""milks", as what Sharon said, is grammatically wrong. Mass noun doesn't have plural form... We should use a noun determiner for mass nouns like a can of milk... cans of milk... in this case, whoever the writer was, she should have used "brands of milk"." His explanation is the same in Wikipedia under count noun article, states that "On the other hand, words such as "milk" or "rice" are not count nouns, but they can be counted with an appropriate unit of measure (e.g. "glasses of milk" or "spoonfuls of rice")." Mass nouns are thought to refer to things (or substances) that can't be counted, while count nouns are supposed to refer to ones that can. It can't be modified by a numeral, occur in singular/plural or co-occur with the relevant kind of determiner.

Please take note of the highlighted phrase because as what stated in wiktionary under milk article;

milk(countable and uncountable; plural milks)
1. (uncountable) A liquid secreted by the mammary glands of mammals to nourish their young.
2. (countable, informal) An individual serving of milk.
1. Table three ordered three milks. (Formally: The guests at table three ordered three glasses of milk.)
The same case is used in esgold website, which has an example of two "milks please (informal) " while sdstate website states that one of the three circumstances in which a noun that is normally non countable can have a countable sense is when what is being referred to is thought of as being in a container, then in informal English it can become countable and be placed in the plural or be preceded by a or an. Example "He told her to give him several sugars also." (sugars = paper packets of sugar). If we translate and apply this special circumstances to sharon statement of " ang dami daming milks", she is actually referring to brands of milk informally.

" Kaya lang ang dami daming milks, nakakalito di ba?" Yup I'm so confused about the grammar she used in a sentence. He!he! But according again to my friend, Linguists are no longer using "milks" since the new rule for uncountable/mass nouns were formulated. But I didn't found in the Internet about this new rule. He also added that not all the information you read and see in the internet is correct and factual. Yup that's true but where can I find the right rule? Maybe, the readers of this article can help me find the truth!

Takot Ka Ba Sa Ipis?

2008-08-16T22:23:00.000-07:00

Kagabi patulog na sana ako ( past 12 am na) pero nagulat ako dahil paglingon ko sa lababo, nakakita ako ng isang pinaka-ayaw ko na insekto sa buong mundo... ang ipis. Naisipan ko tuloy na gawan siya ng artikulo bilang alaala ng kanyang pagkamatay. He!He! In memory ba!

Katsaridaphobia ang tawag sa may takot sa ipis. Di ko alam kung pano, saan at bakit ako nagkaroon ng takot sa ipis. Yup, 25 years old na ako at lalaki pa pero until now, I can't cope up this fear of cockroach. Naaalala ko lang nung bata pa ako (kahit naman ngayon eh), madalas ako nakakakita niyan sa loob ng bahay lalung lalo na sa kusina at sa labas ng bahay (madalas bago at pagkatapos umulan na nagliliparan pa na napakadami at ang liliksi pa! kumilos!). Madalas nga ako lokohin ng mga kaibigan ko na dadampot ng ipis sabay hagis sakin, o kaya parang seryoso na kunwari may ibibigay sakin na mula sa kamay nila yun pala ipis. Afterall, kaibigan ko pa rin sila. He!He!

Sa totoo lang, hindi naman dapat katakutan ang mga ipis kasi malliliit na insekto lang yan at harmless naman sa tao. Pero di ba kapag nakagat ka nun lalo na sa bandang mata, namamaga ang parte ng kinagatan? Kaya di pa ako nakakagat ng ipis sa anumang bahagi ng aking katawan dahil hinding hindi ko hahayaang mangyari yun. Madapuan nga lang eh kinikilabutan na ako, yun pa kayang makagat. Kaya nga kahit mahimbing ang tulog ko, at mag isa lang ako sa kwarto, ewan ko pero bigla akong nagigising kapag may lumilipad na ipis kasi pakiramdam ko'y balak niyang dumapo sakin. Kaya kahit pa patay ang ilaw malakas ang pakiramdam ko sa ipis. Isa rin yun sa dahilan kung bakit hindi ko pinapatay ang ilaw kapag matutulog ako dahil ang mga ipis gusto nila sa mga dark places.

Nahirapan rin ako kumuha ng larawan nila sa internet. Hindi sa mahirap maghanap ng picture (actually napakadami nga.), nahirapan akong tingnan ang picture nila dahil kinikilabutan ako (picture palang pamatay na di ba?).
Kapag nakakakita ako ng ipis, hindi naman ako basta basta nagpapanic, nasigaw, natalon o tumatakbo agad. depende yun sa sitwasyon. Yung nakita kong ipis kagabi, sa kwarto ko yun at ako lang mag isa. Kapag ganyan ang sitwasyon, Kinikilabutan ako at gusto ko agad na patayin siya pero pinagpaplanuhan ko pa yun depende kung saan siya ko siya nakita, kung gano kalaki at kung pano siya kumilos. Madami ako paraan para mawala sa paningin ko yang ipis. Nandiyan yung kinulong ko siya sa lata ng pringles, sinakluban ko ng tabo tapos pinapatay ko pa sa bayaw ko at ang pinakamahirap sa lahat ay yung patayin yung nalipad na ipis sa dingding at kurtina. Pero hangga't maaari, Gusto ko patay agad ang ipis dahil ayokong nakikitang nakabaligtad siya habang napakabilis niyang kinakampay ang kanyang mabalahibong paa. Dapat isang hampas lang ng tsinelas, patay na agad pero kapag nakawala pa siya o nakatago sa isang sulok o kaya lumilipad siya, magulo na ang buong kwarto ko, ok lang sakin, mapatay ko lang siya. Kapag napatay ko na, nahihirapan naman akong itapon siya kasi ayoko siyang gamitan ng dustpan o kaya walis dahil minsan kala mo patay na pero bigla siyang tatakbo o kaya nakampay kampay pa. Madalas ang ginagawa ko, dadamputin ko siya, gamit ang dobleng diaryo, para hindi ko maramdaman ang presensya niya tapos yun diretso sa trash can.

Kapag naman nandiyan ang mga kapatid ko at magulang, ok lang na makita ko sila basta wag lang kikilos palapit sakin pero madalas inuutusan ko silang patayin agad yan. Kapag naman nasa ibang bahay ako o sa mga kaibigan ko (na hindi nakaka-alam na takot pala ako sa ipis), nagtatapang-tapangan ako na makita sila kahit nalipad pa (minsan nga dumapo pa sa damit ko pero tinapik ko lang). Pero sa mga kaibigan ko na maloko, he!he!, yung hinahagisan ako ng ipis at lalo akong tinatakot, yan diyan ako madalas magpanic, tumakbo, tumalon at sumigaw. Afterall kaibigan ko pa rin sila! he!he!

Minsan naisip ko dapat hindi ko nalang sinabi na takot ako sa ipis kasi kapag alam nila na takot sa sa isang bagay, lalo ka nilang lolokohin kaya magmumukha kang katawa-tawa sa paningin nila. Yung iba naniniwala na "face your fears" daw para mawala yan pero ang nangyari sakin, lalo akong natakot sa ipis. Kaya kung sinuman ang magtatanong kung may takot pa ba ako sa ipis? he!he! kailangan pa bang i-memorize yan... siyempre hindi na ako takot sa ipis! Matanda na ako at matapang kaya kayang kaya ko na silang lipunin (lunok!!!). Kaya sa mga may takot sa ipis diyan, simula ngayon, pagkatapos nyo itong mabasa, hindi na dapat kayo matakot sa ipis... kung takot pa rin kayo at may magtanong sa inyo, sabihin nyo pa rin hindi ako takot, kung ayaw nyong mahagisan ng matinik at mabalahibong...ipis.

Yung kapatid ko namang babae, takot sa bulak kaya kapag may sugat siya, madalas naiyak siya hindi dahil sa sugat kundi dun sa dampi ng bulak. He!He! Amazing di ba? (may sariling storya ang kapatid ko regarding diyan sa bulak na yan.) He!He!.

A JOY to Remember

2008-08-15T23:52:00.000-07:00

A JOY to Remember... is my first ever video made to the one who is so close to my heart... Ms. Maryjoy Ocampo. This is my birthday gift and also a graduation gift to her (pinagsabay ng panahon!).

Maryjoy Ocampo (at the left) with her bestfriend Armila

She's my classmate during our technician years in our campus( 2000-2003), the bestfriend of my ex-girlfriend and my co-worker in manufacturing company. There's one thing that I want to reveal to her but I don't have any strength to say directly to her. The message is there behind the video and I know that she feels, understands and know it but I didn't see any sign that she really likes what I've done. I have a feeling that she doesn't love me too and I know that she will break my heart and after that our friendship will never be the same again just like what happened to my ex-girlfriend. I don't know what happened but I fall in love to her. When my girlfriend broke up, she had helped me to move on and to realize the beauty of life. It's really hard to keep a secret especially when it comes to your heart but I try to keep it as long as I can, or maybe, I will practice to stay away from her to remove this heart feelings. There are lots of questions and ideas that banged my heart and puzzled my mind that sometimes made me like a crazy human until I come up a solution to this problem.... to kill this damn heart feelings. So now I started to accept it as one of her good friends, which is what she has done to me before.

"You're My Bestfriend"

2008-08-15T22:52:00.000-07:00

When I was in the dark

you were there as my light

you gave me shine and bright

that makes me alright

When I was sad and alone

you were there to comfort

you gave me glad and happiness

to fulfill my loneliness

When I was on the storm

you were there as my Shepherd

you make me out of wrong

And gave me home for my shelter

When there's almost no chance

you gave me your hands

to hold tight on the rope

you gave me strength of hope

So I'm thanking God

for the guardian I've had

for the angel He gave

for the protector he make

For the time you spent

for the thoughts we shared

for the care of a friend

the "best" and my "true" friend.

This is his poem to me. He gave it to me in a train during our college years 2002-2003. It was so amazing to accept a poem so after receiving this poem, I made a poem as a response to this. So funny!

The Diary

2008-08-15T22:28:00.000-07:00

The first time I've met you,

I treat you as nothing;

'Coz, I didn't know your name,

Everything 'bout you is unclear.

When I've known your name,

We start talking to each other;

I thought that was the time,

To accept you as my classmate.

Now I've known you're my classmate,

I always seek your help;

Particularly, during our drawing class,

Resulting to call you my friend.

When we were together,

My life full of happiness;

For being joker, prosperous and friendly man,

Qualities that made you become my close friend.

Until God wanted to test,

How strong our friendship was;

You said, you stop studying,

That made my tears falling.

And then He answered my prayer,

At last! you agreed to my plan;

being apart was no space for us,

You and I were best of friends.

One night I was thinking,

If you're the one I've been searching for;

Until I've noticed myself writing,

"To you my bestfriend."

At first I've felt comfortable to you,

But as times goes by;

I tried to ask myself,

"Is am I also your bestfriend?"

I tried to find for the answers,

But what I've got were all negative;

You're always teasing and quarreling me,

My gifts, you didn't give importance.

I summarized all of them,

Collected and compacted as one;

I sadly concluded,"Oh God! I have mistaken again."

I tried to help you, But you regret all of them;

I prayed to our almighty God,

To lighten and widen your mind.

I verify my conclusion,

Until you came to my side;

Both of us were talking

Expressing our grievance to each other.

At night, I tried to write to you,

But I'm sorry I didn't,

Due to over fatigue and stress.

Haven't mistaken I received a letter,

After riding a train, I opened it;

I shock for the title while asking,

"Is what I've read true?"

As a response to your poem,

With all my heart and mind,

Without a doubt, no more no less,

I unabashedly say, ""You're my bestfriend"too.

The poem that I made to my bestfriend in college. (he!he! Andami ko poem noh?). That poem is my response to his poem.

When It is Too Late...

2008-08-15T21:40:00.000-07:00

When was the last time we saw each other?

That was the time when you're always there;

Happy to be with when were together,

Promised to keep our friendship last forever.

When was the last time you cared for me?

That was the time when you're my bestfriend;

You taught me how to live simple and free,

The greatest ever my life had happened.

When was the last time you called me enemy?

That was the time when we're both angry;

I thought we've finished to resolve this already,

But why this incident always bothered my memory.

When was the last time I asked you a question?

That was the time when I was confused;

I tried oral and written communication,

But you regret all I had to use.

When was the last time you forgot my name?

That was the time when you sent back my letters

What's wrong did I've done you, for me to blame,

I didn't expect this could happened in us.

When was the last time I eagerly waited?

That was the time I wanted our friendship to be healed,

But as what you've stated,

The best thing to do, expect the unexpected.

When was the last time I'm your bestfriend?

That was the question I wanted to know,

And when was the last time you had a bestfriend?

When was the last time...when it is too late.?

That was the poem I made to my 4th year High School bestfriend. That was the time I want to know if I am his bestfriend too. He answered he didn't. Sad but true!!!